Our journey to building a family is not the traditional route by any means!  One of the most popular questions is, of course, “How does this all work?”  We have decided to go through all the details with the old school who-what-where-when-why.

Who:

James & Christopher – the bio dads

Dr. Shivani – our fertility doctor

Meg – our medical liaison

Surrogate – the gracious woman that will carry our child

Egg Donor – the egg donor (the egg donor is always anonymous and unfortunately, other than her profile and photos, we will never know her)

What:

Gestational surrogacy, which is different than traditional surrogacy.  With gestational surrogacy, we will both donate sperm which will be used to fertilize eggs that have been collected from our egg donor.  Once the eggs are fertilized with our semen, Dr. Shivani will transfer embryos to the surrogate.  Within 12 days after the transfer, we will know if we are pregnant.  The remaining embryos will be frozen for the future.  You may hear us refer to the “babies” in plural because the chance of twins is significantly higher with IVF procedures. 

From a legal perspective, gestational surrogacy is safer than traditional surrogacy because the egg donor and the surrogate have no biological connection.  For us, gestational surrogacy in India, adds another layer of uncertainty because our babies will be halfway around the world.  We are going into this knowing that we have to put a lot of trust in our doctors and, whether far away or close to home, we have very little control over what happens the next 9 months.  We just hope and pray for the best and are grateful for the love and support of YOU, our friends and family. 

Lastly, one of the biggest questions we get is “who is going to donate and who will be the dad?”  The answer is actually simple… Both us of are donating and half of the eggs will be fertilized by each of us, then, anything is possible!  There is a little science behind the process, but our children will hopefully 🙂 come from one of us and the outcome is not at all important to us. 

Ultimately and most importantly, both of us will be dads! 

When:

We left for India on February 14 – we are EXTREMELY EXCITED!  While in India, we have 3 appointments at SCI to take care of in-person introductions, discuss treatment plans, review surrogate profiles, semen donations, legal paperwork, etc., etc, etc. 

If all goes well and our embryos “take” on the first transfer, we will be headed back to India in October or November. 

Where:

Surrogacy Center India, New Delhi, India 

Why:

The choice to do Indian surrogacy made the most sense for us for several reason and we are happy to share those if you are interested. For us, this is an opportunity and an adventure to make our dreams of having a family come true!

Christopher and James